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Monday, July 18, 2011

Respite Nursing

Ever since Sis was an infant, I have been told of my option to have a respite Nurse come into my home to help take care of her. I have always declined, because, " I can take care of her myself, she is MY baby, and I don't need any help." While this is still true, I have also been able to drop a bit of that ridiculous pride, and realize that now would be a great time to start accepting some help. Jim is about to start working out of town, making me somewhat of a single Momma to 5 children. She is getting older, which means heavier, which makes her body much more awkward and difficult to move around and take out. I see many pluses to having a Nurse in my home, helping with Kira. She deserves the extra hands to do range of motion, read to her, get her out of bed and rolling around in her chair, etc. It will help me be able to take the boys to and from school without having to load her up in the truck daily. I know it will be a difficult adjustment to having a stranger in my home, many hours a day, taking care of my child. I will feel very.... what's the word I'm going for...I don't know, let's just say uncomfortable. But I hope that it is a speedy adjustment and the Nurse and my family have a great rapport. I have to admit to still feeling guilty that I "have" to go ahead and accept this help now. I feel like I should be able to do everything she needs, medically, comfort wise, and stimulatory wise. Truth be told, she deserves so much more than what I provide her. I ask that none of you rebut this, because I have laxed way too much over the years with her care.  I do not do everything that I should with her, I cannot even tell you the last time I gave her a full body massage or did a session of range of motion. It's sadly too easy to let her remain still and quiet in one room of the house, only going in to feed her, change her, change her position, or turn her music on. It's not fair to her, and it's neglectful. So I am doing this for her, she deserves nothing but the best care!

6 comments:

momma-jen said...

You are not by any means a lax mom. And I will rebutt that. But - I will tell you from personal expierence that I know how hard that pride is to swallow. I neglected to allow myself to admit Mitch would need respite - but now that we have it it is amazing. We were lucky enough to have the same lady that was his worker in preschool and my stipulation was that it was her or no one. I am comfortable with Jeanne, Mitch loves her and the ONLY way I was going to accept respite was if it was her giving it. Although she, yes of course, was a stranger at first I quickly (and I mean VERY quickly) realized just how much a part of our family she is. Mitch cries when she leaves, runs to her when she comes and is SO much of a blessing for him I think of her as I would my own sister. I know how hard it is, but you ALL deserve respite... and you will be amazed when you find the RIGHT nurse just how blessed you are that they are in your life!

Kira's Mommy said...

You just totally made me cry! LOL Thank you, and I am so glad that you all have her in your life. I can't wait for that connection.

Anonymous said...

I think thats a great idea, you never realize how much help you can get until you ask for it! Your a terrific Mamma and not only is this going to help her it will give you time with the boys!!! Love ya Sarah!!!!

Anonymous said...

I think thats a great idea, you never realize how much help you can get until you ask for it! Your a terrific Mamma and not only is this going to help her it will give you time with the boys!!! Love ya Sarah!!!!

Katie said...

Sarah, you are not a lax momma. You are so strong and such an inspiraton. I think it is awesome that you are getting some help. I can not even imagine doing everything you do without having help!

TRINKnOLLIE said...

I'm so glad you are going to get the help you all really, truly deserve. While under very different circumstances, I now have "strangers" in my house daily doing therapy with Oliver and they have really been great. It helped to remind myself that they go into different people's homes all the time, they know how to do their job of being present and helping, without intruding. My mom has been a home health aide for many years, mostly working with the elderly but also some with disabilities. She has formed some amazing relationships with clients over the years. I hope that you and Kira will be blessed to have help as awesome as my mom is, and that you can be proud of making such a brave decision to invite help into your home. XOXO